Couples Reviews

We’ve received a few emails now asking the question, “How did the two of you meet?” This is the story of two people… Alain and Cecilia, a happily married, sexually adventurous and all around normal couple that enjoy sex, each other, and webmastering enough to bring you our deepest, most personal thoughts in a reviews blog.

I’d been in a series of long term relationships before I met Cecilia, and though none of them lasted ultimately, they were rather long in duration. I’ve never been a “one night stand” kinda guy, though I’ve had them. I’m rather sensitive and romantically bent, so the notion of “keeping it together” and “working through things” kept me in bad relationships longer than I should have. No regrets of course, and lots of lessons learned.

Having become disillusioned with finding a new soulmate “the regular way” (bars, clubs, work, the usual everyday contacts I had) I decided to try my hand at online dating. A few people had mentioned it to me as a possible solution for my lovelorn dry spell, since they knew I was a total computer geek and also a writer. I got my degree in English and loved communicating… it’s what I’d always been best at.

So I put up a profile on [a certain dating site that won’t let us put them on Couples Reviews because we have adult content on the site– but it starts with “m” and rhymes with “snatch”] with little to no expectations on finding someone significant. I was basically just putting out, in my mind, a personal ad and maybe since there were new lines in the water, I’d be more likely to land a fish. How right I turned out to be.

I went on a few dates with a handful of different women. They were all very cool and sincere, but none of them really did it for me. A few cooked me dinner, I saw lots of movies and spent lots of money on dinners that, in retrospect, would’ve been better had at home alone over a microwavable pizza and The Matrix.

The first woman to contact me did so in a way that caught me completely off guard. I’m MIFFED that I can’t locate THE original email she sent to me, but here’s the best paraphrase I can come up with. I’ve told this story a million times to a million people, so it’s pretty spot-on, in any case:

“Hello. With all due respect, I must ask you the following question regarding your profile. You state through the boxes you’ve checked or not checked that your ‘ideal woman’ could be anywhere between 3 feet tall to 9 feet tall, fat or skinny, Muslim, Christian, Buddhist or Jewish. The ONLY thing you actually checked as your ‘preference’ was under the section for hair color. You only checked blonde.

What, no love for brunettes? I’ll have you know that these chemically created blonde highlights in my hair are very realistic, very sexy, and very expensive. If you don’t mind, could you please explain what you might have against brunettes?

Sincerely, Cecilia.”

That was it. She called me on it… I had a thing for blondes, and in my un-thoughtful (perhaps shallow) creation of my online dating profile, I let slip the fact that all my life, the archetype of beauty was fair haired. I had to come clean and admit that she’d caught me.

Our emails grew from short to long, from brief textual exchanges to hefty tomes of introspective sharing. They became more detailed and personal, including all manner of personal information from the type of music we liked (turned out she new more obscure Grateful Dead lyrics than I did, and had seen Phish in concert) to the types of books we liked to read.

To my shock and surprised, she was a student at the same university I’d just graduated from… in the Masters program for English! What an amazing coincidence that turned out to be a great indicator of how well we’d end up getting along. We were both fond of the written word, and to skip ahead to when we’d already met (and kissed), she showed me her book case. Nothing reveals more about a person than the books lining their shelves, and her book case was nearly identical to (though larger than) mine.

I met my best friend, and her name was Cecilia. We got married a year and a half later, and the rest they say, is history.

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